How to Wrap 2021 up with a Pretty Bow! - Lilly Wang
We can’t start a new year until the old one is cleared with. Most people WANT a better future, but are held back by guilt, shame, embarrassment, from their past. Most of this is at the subconscious level, which makes changing the habit of living in the past harder, BUT, we can start changing this habit around by using this one simple 3-part tool.
THE “WHY” (WHY WE DO THIS):
We can’t start a new year until the old one is cleared with. Most people WANT a better future, but are held back by thoughts and feelings involving guilt, shame, and embarrassment, from the past. Most of this is at the subconscious level, which makes it harder to change the habit of living in the past, BUT, we can start changing this habit around by using this one simple 3-part tool.
PART ONE
WHAT DID YOU DO WELL IN THIS PAST MONTH?
Tips and tricks:
Jot down ANYTHING and EVERYTHING you can think of, and if a thought like “how is that even important enough to jot down,” comes up, please understand that that is the voice of ego and judgment. What we want to do is to BYPASS this ego and judgment voice, and actually honour, praise, and feel good about ourselves.
When I took my group students through this exercise, I did something different - I did the exercise right then and there too! One of my bullet points went like this “I’m so happy I bought my favourite lip chap that ran out weeks ago when Sephora went on sale at 20% off. I’m frugal and awesome!”
Anyone who’s busy (or anyone who has ADHD) can certainly relate to how cool it is to actually manage to restock on a necessity while there is a sale going on.
But for many of us and most of the time, we can’t acknowledge that something like that would have been something that “we did well” this past month. Right?
Again, this is because we have been conditioned to judge, doubt, and denounce ourselves. So, no more of that. Let’s learn to acknowledge ourselves!Jot down your list and LET THE BRAIN JUICES FLOW. Just keep writing!
I would recommend at least 10+ items for this month.
Start each item or bullet point with “I’m so proud of myself/happy with myself for…” or some variation thereof.
Make your items both tangible (e.g. "I want to increase my earnings by 130%"), and intangible ("I want to be of more integrity," or "I want to meet cool new people this year").
Other examples for this section:
I’m so proud of myself for having asked my boss if I could take on more responsibility at work
I’m so proud of myself for having shown compassion to my friend when xyz happened
I’m so happy with myself for having gotten my LLC and made my business official
I’m so happy because I committed to hiking every weekend this month
Your turn,
PART TWO
WHAT DID YOU DO WELL IN THIS PAST YEAR?
PART THREE
WHAT WOULD YOU LOVE TO DO, ACCOMPLISH, AND FEEL THIS UPCOMING YEAR?
The reason I’m getting you to do this part last is because you’re now able to approach this question with lighter, kinder, and more self-loving energy.
You see, every thought you have about yourself, your life, and the world around you is creating and manifesting your life (and our shared world) as we speak. So if you were to will yourself to set goals for 2022 while under shame, embarrassment, or self deprecation, then you might create the success you want, but this might be through the experience of stress and anxiety and self doubt.
But there is a better way -- if you were to set your goals for 2022 while under more self-acknowledgement, self-praise, and self-love, then you would have an easier, more joyful, more abundant experience in creating the success and growth and abundance that you’re seeking for 2022.
That is the difference between forcing ourselves through our goals and through life, and CREATING our lives.
So, with that said, please jot down all that which you want to do, accomplish, feel, and experience, this year.
Three tips, yet again:
Gift yourself the discipline to allow yourself to write that which you want. If you were to judge and doubt yourself, ALLOW IT TO PASS. You are not here to judge and doubt yourself.
Follow your instincts and write down what you want!
Let the brain juices flow, jot down anything and everything that comes to mind. Even if it were to be a stream of consciousness, allow it to flow through you!
And remember, jot down at least 10+ or more items for each section, and make them tangible (e.g. I want to get 5 more vendors) and intangible ("I want to be more present").
Thank you,
If you enjoyed this blog, you might want to join me for my New Years Instagram Live on Sunday January 2. (Follow me here to get the notification of the live on Sunday!). I'll be talking about how to start your new year strong at 6pm Alberta time (that's 5pm PST, 7pm CST, and 8pm EST). Hope to see you there!
