How to Wrap 2021 up with a Pretty Bow! - Lilly Wang
We can’t start a new year until the old one is cleared with. Most people WANT a better future, but are held back by guilt, shame, embarrassment, from their past. Most of this is at the subconscious level, which makes changing the habit of living in the past harder, BUT, we can start changing this habit around by using this one simple 3-part tool.
THE “WHY” (WHY WE DO THIS):
We can’t start a new year until the old one is cleared with. Most people WANT a better future, but are held back by thoughts and feelings involving guilt, shame, and embarrassment, from the past. Most of this is at the subconscious level, which makes it harder to change the habit of living in the past, BUT, we can start changing this habit around by using this one simple 3-part tool.
PART ONE
WHAT DID YOU DO WELL IN THIS PAST MONTH?
Tips and tricks:
Jot down ANYTHING and EVERYTHING you can think of, and if a thought like “how is that even important enough to jot down,” comes up, please understand that that is the voice of ego and judgment. What we want to do is to BYPASS this ego and judgment voice, and actually honour, praise, and feel good about ourselves.
When I took my group students through this exercise, I did something different - I did the exercise right then and there too! One of my bullet points went like this “I’m so happy I bought my favourite lip chap that ran out weeks ago when Sephora went on sale at 20% off. I’m frugal and awesome!”
Anyone who’s busy (or anyone who has ADHD) can certainly relate to how cool it is to actually manage to restock on a necessity while there is a sale going on.
But for many of us and most of the time, we can’t acknowledge that something like that would have been something that “we did well” this past month. Right?
Again, this is because we have been conditioned to judge, doubt, and denounce ourselves. So, no more of that. Let’s learn to acknowledge ourselves!Jot down your list and LET THE BRAIN JUICES FLOW. Just keep writing!
I would recommend at least 10+ items for this month.
Start each item or bullet point with “I’m so proud of myself/happy with myself for…” or some variation thereof.
Make your items both tangible (e.g. "I want to increase my earnings by 130%"), and intangible ("I want to be of more integrity," or "I want to meet cool new people this year").
Other examples for this section:
I’m so proud of myself for having asked my boss if I could take on more responsibility at work
I’m so proud of myself for having shown compassion to my friend when xyz happened
I’m so happy with myself for having gotten my LLC and made my business official
I’m so happy because I committed to hiking every weekend this month
Your turn,
PART TWO
WHAT DID YOU DO WELL IN THIS PAST YEAR?
PART THREE
WHAT WOULD YOU LOVE TO DO, ACCOMPLISH, AND FEEL THIS UPCOMING YEAR?
The reason I’m getting you to do this part last is because you’re now able to approach this question with lighter, kinder, and more self-loving energy.
You see, every thought you have about yourself, your life, and the world around you is creating and manifesting your life (and our shared world) as we speak. So if you were to will yourself to set goals for 2022 while under shame, embarrassment, or self deprecation, then you might create the success you want, but this might be through the experience of stress and anxiety and self doubt.
But there is a better way -- if you were to set your goals for 2022 while under more self-acknowledgement, self-praise, and self-love, then you would have an easier, more joyful, more abundant experience in creating the success and growth and abundance that you’re seeking for 2022.
That is the difference between forcing ourselves through our goals and through life, and CREATING our lives.
So, with that said, please jot down all that which you want to do, accomplish, feel, and experience, this year.
Three tips, yet again:
Gift yourself the discipline to allow yourself to write that which you want. If you were to judge and doubt yourself, ALLOW IT TO PASS. You are not here to judge and doubt yourself.
Follow your instincts and write down what you want!
Let the brain juices flow, jot down anything and everything that comes to mind. Even if it were to be a stream of consciousness, allow it to flow through you!
And remember, jot down at least 10+ or more items for each section, and make them tangible (e.g. I want to get 5 more vendors) and intangible ("I want to be more present").
Thank you,
If you enjoyed this blog, you might want to join me for my New Years Instagram Live on Sunday January 2. (Follow me here to get the notification of the live on Sunday!). I'll be talking about how to start your new year strong at 6pm Alberta time (that's 5pm PST, 7pm CST, and 8pm EST). Hope to see you there!
Tipsy Tuesday - How to have a winning 4th quarter! - By Coach Lilly Wang
WHY RE-COMMIT to the 4th quarter? Because the 4th quarter is a quarter of your year! And how we treat a year is how we really treat our life… and your life is important. Wouldn’t you agree?
WHY RE-COMMIT to the 4th quarter? Because the 4th quarter is a quarter of your year! And how we treat a year is how we really treat our life… and your life is important. Wouldn’t you agree?
Step 1: acknowledge the good
List out all of the things you’ve accomplished and all of the things that you’re proud of from the summer and early fall.
I’m so proud of myself because…
These can be tangible accomplishments, like I’m so proud of myself for putting my earrings on my online store, or intangible accomplishments, like I’m so proud of myself for being very present at work meetings. As long as you know these to have been truths, then they are important to you and your list.
I would suggest you do this with 2 sub-headings: professional and personal. Therefore you would have tangible and intangible accomplishments for both the professional and the personal subheadings.
Some other examples can look like:
Professional & tangible: I’m so proud that I made 25K between July and September of this year.
Professional & intangible (or less quantified): I’m so proud that I reached out to several mentors and asked for help.
Personal & tangible: I’m so proud of myself for having taken a hike every weekend this summer and fall!
Personal & intangible: I’m really proud of myself for having communicated more vulnerably with my partner.
Now, write these down for yourself! There is no limit or cap to how many you can write, but I would recommend that you write at least 5-8 each for the subcategories of professional & personal.
P.S. to hear me give out mini bits of advice like this, follow me on IG @thelillywang
Step 2: claim what you’d like - your vision
Now comes the part that will require your imagination. When I work with clients, this is when I stretch their limits. We can only get what we want if we ask for it, and life only gets better and better if we ask for newer and bigger things that we haven’t experienced before!
My style is NOT to teach linear growth and just focus small goals… My style is to help you create a beautiful vision, and to commit to the goals that will take you there. This is why instead of getting linear growth based on pre-existing patterns, my students tend to get exponential growth, out of the norm of their old patterns!
Write down what it is you WOULD LIKE to get out of this quarter. I call this the VISIONING part.
Make this inspiring, and different, from what you’ve accomplished before.
—> For example, one month* I wrote that I would like to learn how to make $20,000 that month. I ended up earning $30,000. Keep in mind that for the month a year before I had made that goal, I had only earned $2,000 (as was just coming out of having left my previous industry, and out of grief from the passing of my father). Therefore think big. Dream big. Commit big.
—> Another time I wanted to learn how to gain 5 clients that month. I gained 4. The context there was that I was good at helping my existing clients, so they would renew with me (yay!), but when I was honesty with myself, I also knew that that kept me in my comfort zone. I felt that my growth as a business woman required of me the willingness to step outside of my comfort zone and learn how to acquire, and not just keep, clients.
*Keep in mind these are my monthly* goals as I set monthly goals more often than I do quarterly goals, but you get my point!
Why do I share this with you in such an honest and vulnerable way? To show you that I didn’t “start” at an easy place… I started at zero. Every time I’ve chosen to sit down and courageously ask for and claim something new that would stretch my limits, I grew. And my results grew, and my confidence grew, and my faith in this process grew.
So wherever you are, I hope that you’ll sit down right now and practice asking for what you want, courageously.
We call this your vision for this quarter.
To get more support on finishing the year strong, join me at my last event of the year! This is a 3 day workshop that takes place across Oct 19-21 at 9am mountain time. Register and SAVE your spot while tickets are still free here.
I will add inspiration, motivation, and commitment to help you have the best 4th quarter ever! If you have questions about this event, DM "EVENT" to @theLillyWang or send a quick email to lillywangcoaching@gmail.com.
Step 3: break it down
Now that you’ve claimed what you want, let’s break things down into achievable steps. I call these things “goals.” :P
Life always responds to us. So when we set our sights on a new vision, and begin taking action, life responds with experiences, people, and opportunities that will help make our actions fruitful. This is why we’ve got to play a part in our success, by being willing to take action!
By this logic, for instance, if one vision you have for the quarter is to earn your 20K, and this is something you’ve not done before, then you’d have to take some action that you also haven’t done before!
What are a couple things that you feel you should have been doing, but haven’t?
It could be any of the following: sending out emails, creating videos of your product, learning to speak about your product in public, following up with people who have inquired about your product, organizing your weekly schedule, posting on social media more regularly, actually posting about what you do on social media and not just spending time on social media haha, taking a class on xyz, putting in time for personal development, learning how to focus your mindset and manifestation abilities, and so much more!
These are some examples of things that any one of us have been putting off, or have been inconsistent with. You’ll know what’s right for your industry and your line of work.
When you sit down and do this, your intuition will guide you to the answers - and if you feel resistant, please recognize that that is just the protective voice that’s trying to protect you from taking action, should doing anything new places you in harm. This voice serves a purpose, but you mustn’t let it take over… instead, you must let the inspiring voice speak, because it is with this voice that you will begin creating the life of your dreams… starting this quarter.
Once you’ve written down 3-4 of these things, called goals, that will take you closer to your vision, set timelines for said goals and schedule them in. To explain this part would require just about another 12 blogs, so we might have to leave more for the next blog. But I hope I’ve inspired you to start dreaming about the things you want, because every quarter of the year should matter - because you matter!
How did you do with this exercise? Did this blog help you today? Please feel free to take a picture of your notes, and tag us, because we want to hear from you! @thelillywang @ybb.connect
I'm also holding a free workshop finishing the year strong! This workshop takes place on Oct 19-21 at 9am Alberta (MDT) time, for about 90 mins each day.
This is my only event for the remainder of the year, and I am still keeping the tickets free, so don’t miss out - save your seat here.
I’ll be talking about quantum physics, the law of attraction, psychology, and high-performance coaching principles.
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Lilly Wang, M.Sc. (London School of Economics)
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