End of the year notes with Coach Lilly Wang
Do you like setting goals for yourself? Do you think setting resolutions, or thinking about what you want out of a new year year, at the start of the year, is important?
Do you like setting goals for yourself? Do you think setting resolutions, or thinking about what you want out of a new year year, at the start of the year, is important?
If you’re following us, you probably answered “yes” to one (or all) of the above. And yes, goal setting and planning is certainly what help us get to where we want to go.
However, what many people don’t do enough of is “wrapping things up.” This is a quantum physics tool that I use with my clients — that of wrapping things up, and of “closing the loop.”
WHO IS LILLY?
Hello, my name is Lilly, and I help people get more of what they want and what they deserve. In so doing I often call upon my quantum physics (spiritual) training, something I started about 2 decades ago. I’ve worked on different types of projects involving consulting, coaching, and teaching across the globe.
Whether on large-scale national level projects with the World Health Organization, or with small businesses and solopreneurs wanting to grow more and live out their passion more, I absolutely love seeing people ask for help and reaching more of their potential.
LET‘S GET STARTED!
Okay, so why do I advise people to “close the loop?” Read on to get a glimpse of what coaching looks like!
I advise clients to practice different tools to “close the loop” on many things in their lives so that they can “complete” things, so that they can then “begin” other things with better and stronger energy.
This can be explained at the mental level, and understood on the emotional level.
For example, if you are experiencing miscommunication or crossed wires with a colleague or business partner, does that unspoken tension feel good, or bad? Probably bad, right? So would having a conversation about it help? Yes, if the conversation can be done in an open and respectful space, it often would, wouldn’t it?
This scenario represents what I call “closing the loop” and resolving an incomplete issue. By closing the loop here, we find a sense of “completion,” so to speak, to a problem that was previously causing tension, and one that may have been affecting team morale and productivity.
And so it is with other things in our lives. We all make promises to others, and set goals for ourselves. But we feel a sense of tension when we don’t take the necessary steps toward them, don’t we? So whether it’s in our personal lives or our business and professional lives, it stands to reason that the more loops we close, the less tension we feel, and thus the more energy and positive emotions we might have remaining, for actually creating the life we want.
I help clients with more complex and more personal situations, and often use tailored tools and systems that apply to their situation at that time, which I can’t exactly do with you as I don’t quite know what your goals are and what it is that you’re going through right now. But here are 3 very simple things I could advise you on doing that would really help in closing the loop and finding a sense of completion and peace. Ready?
Sit in a quiet, comfortable space. If you’re musically inclined, you can put something soft or inspiring on.
Grab a journal and write the following down. I’ve attached quantum physics coaching (explanations) next to each of the 3 steps to help explain why these activities are so powerful.
1. 10 things for which you can thank and praise yourself.
Examples of this might look like “I am thankful I finished that scary email today.” Or “I feel really proud of myself for having put myself out there and reaching out to so and so last week.”
Why? Because most people feel too much tension about their broken promises to themselves, so we need to start flipping the script on this and acknowledging the good that we do!
2. Next, 4-5 things for which you can forgive yourself.
Examples of this might look like “I forgive myself for not having been as kind as I would have liked to have been to so and so, when such and such happened this year.” Or “I forgive myself for not having asked for help when I needed it this past fall.”
Why? Because when most people dream of what they want in life, they’re the first ones to stop themselves from going after them. They might cite that one time 10 years ago that they didn’t follow through, or those 50,000 times in the past year during which they didn’t give it their all.
I’m not trying to depress you here, but rather, to point out how common it is for so many of us to stop ourselves in the track when goal setting. Learn the steps to self-forgiveness, and you’ll see yourself becoming more and more open to the things you do want, and do deserve.
3. And lastly, 10 things for which you can say gratitude.
Examples of this might look like “I am so thankful for the kindness and patience that so and so showed me last week when we were on zoom.” Or “I am so grateful that I have 2 great mentors in my life.”
Why? Because giving true and genuine thanks is one of the most powerful ways of raising our energetic vibration. And why would we want to raise our energetic vibration? Because all the good things we want in life - fulfilment, self-actualization, love, self love, joy, and so on, exist on a high energetic vibration.
Do this once before the end of the year, and once again at the start of the year if you can. Let me know how it goes and how it helped you.
CONCLUSION
Closing the loop and finding a sense of completion help us let the past stay in the past, thus creating an energetic space in which we can actually start dreaming of our vision and goals again.
If you’ve heard me speak or if you work with me, you’ve probably heard me say that throughout my career in consulting and coaching, I’ve never seen a lack of talent being an issue. We as humans are all so full of talent and potential. But what I’ve seen is an ability to follow-through, to believe in ourselves, and to continue and persevere when things get tough (and things will always get tough).
Most people don’t allow themselves to dream. Let’s flip that script, and begin to dream about the life we want again, beginning with these tools.
Thank you for reading this today. :) If you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to reach out and ask!
With love,
Lilly
CONNECT WITH LILLY
If this helped you today, consider following Lilly here:
Instagram: @thelillywang
Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/successeveryday
Or booking with her at https://calendly.com/lillystrategy
UP NEXT:
Lilly and YEG Boss Babes are creating a “Working from Home with Kids Survival Guide” launching in early 2021 and we are so excited! This is a fun, supportive, and coaching-oriented digital download!
Happy Holidays from Lilly Wang and YEG Boss Babes!
How To Pivot And Step Into A New Power
Hi, you. My name is Miranda Horvath, and I ask you to join me in this shared picturesque memory to describe a feeling many of us may be feeling at this moment.
Hi, you. My name is Miranda Horvath, and I ask you to join me in this shared picturesque memory to describe a feeling many of us may be feeling at this moment. Picture yourself on a small secluded paradise beach, wearing your favourite sunnies. You can’t believe your own beautiful eyes as you look out at the water and see monumental waves crash towards the shore. You can’t believe the waves can reach so far towards you as they wash past your feet and ankles. The bright sun shines down dancing beams of warmth across your face and chest, the soft breeze flows through your body. You simply cannot resist looking up at the sky to smile, and gently close your eyes to feel Mother Earth’s comforting, natural gifts. You decide that the sun is shining, and the water is clear, and you want to go for a swim.
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You lift up your sandy toes and step towards the water, gingerly at first, and then you run right into the biggest, baddest wave you can find! You can barely contain your excitement! Your body cuts through the first wave like soft warm butter, you outstretch your arms, kick your feet and start to swim towards the majestic oceanscape. This is pure unadulterated bliss.
You start to get a little far, so you decide it’s time to turn back. That wave ahead looks daunting, majestic, and just a little too close. Suddenly, you’re turned upside down and you have no idea how it happened so fast. You try to scream for help as you realize, panicked, you’re being swept towards the point of no return, but all that comes out are the last bubbles of your life supply floating towards the surface, and you can’t regain control.
The more you fight, and struggle, the deeper you sink. You have no idea what to do, you’re sinking deeper, the weight of the water closes in on your chest as it becomes heavy, tight, and you fight so hard to deny your reality - can nobody really save me? Is there not one other soul that can see my fight, or hear my screams? I thought I was such a great swimmer, how did this happen? What about my family?
It’s too late as you can no longer see the sun beams, there is no warmth now. Only cold and frightening despair as you sink deeper and deeper down, never to be seen, or found.
This is what powerlessness feels like.
How can we find the strength to swim up from the depths, against the waves of overwhelm, and swim back to the safety and stability of land, when we have no oxygen, and zero strength? I want to talk about how to redirect, and reclaim your almighty power when you are feeling utter powerlessness.
I hope you could relate to how I have felt when you picture yourself in that same oceanscape. It’s okay, I understand. I got you. If you or someone you care about is in a mental state of drowning and overwhelm, just know you and we can hop on that surfboard, climb on up and make that wave your bitch.
I am a registered massage therapist in Edmonton and an online holistic personal practice consultant. I started my company, MassageByMir from the ground up. I turned nothing into something, and I nurture this beautiful life I’ve created for myself every single day, tending to it and nourishing it and being grateful for it and feeling the power from it because it is my passion.
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But now that’s gone, and I couldn’t get up for several days. I know some people didn’t feel the same mental torture that I did, and I’m really happy about that. But I did. I write in my journal twice a day to be able to record my process as emotionally and accurately as possible. I’ve looked back on all that raw personal data and created this personal culmination. I hope you get from it exactly what you need. Every day is a new process, and I’m finding a way to not only survive, and maintain my life’s priorities, but actually thrive in a new creative direction, my online business is growing, I’m learning so much every day and soak up every single second and every single lesson that I can. I’m so grateful for every moment despite all the hardships that came with this, in a worldwide trauma. I want that for you. If reading this could help and makes that even %1 more possible, then keep reading.
1. Prioritize the essentials before you give yourself time to fall apart. Start by examining what needs to be addressed immediately, and what can wait. If you have immediate bills due, pay them or if you are short on funds, research, get on the web, ask your family and community or make some calls and figure out how to get your bill payments extended, reduce or alternate paid monthly subscriptions for free ones, suspend services and come up with a game plan. You can do this!! But first…
2. Give yourself time to fall apart. Nap all day. Eat comfort food. Call everyone, and get the tissues. You’re allowed to stay in this sad zone for as long as you need, and give yourself permission to fully feel those feels. You can’t predict how much time you will give to this part of the process, but it will be unique and memorable to you and just remember that someday, this will all be in our past.
3. All we can do is give our best and work with the tools that we have at the time. Forgive yourself, allow forgiveness for others. Are you here for me? Cuz babe, I’m here for you. I forgive you for being stressed or sad or scared or for reacting any way that you may. Of course this is not limitless but give your beautiful self time to relax into your body and get reacquainted with yourself.
4. Love yourself. No matter what. Self explanatory.
5. Look inward and reclaim your power, beauties. The way I think about it is, it’s happening anyway, we can’t control it so let’s just steel ourselves and prepare to have to be badasses for awhile - let’s get our bearings, accept where we are, and decide to make the best of this, no matter what, hell or high water.
6. Start small and grow. Do the things that bring you joy, and if you’re not ready to go full on, start small. Instead of a grand canvas painting, start with a beautiful colouring book or just any expressive activity you can think of that will help you with your mental health and self love. Work on purposeful, soulful projects and if they’re productive or helpful, that’s great too! You never know where it will lead you, so be open to changes and opportunities.
7. Remember to continue to reach out for help whenever you need. Reach out and connect stronger with your community now than ever and be there for someone else if they need you to lend an ear too. If you can’t, that’s okay too. Take care of you and take care of others when you have more in your cup.
8. Finally...be respectful - no judgement here. No slamming, shaming or blaming. Let’s be chill, okay?
I hope my story identifies with you, powerhouse babes and I can’t wait to see us look back on this with as much gratitude and fullness as we can, to lighten ourselves up for opportunities and greater connection in our future with the ones we love. Swim back to shore and I’m waiting here for you with open arms.
Basically, keep being badass. I hope to hear from you and chat with you! Can we connect please?
Miranda Horvath
MassageByMir
www.massagebymirconsulting.com
Tips For Planning Your 2020 Social Media Strategy
Social media is now and will always be the best platform to connect with your audience and make an image for yourself. Social media is expanding and getting bigger and bigger each day. Take advantage of this platform and make a name for yourself, entertain your audience and now in 2020, create an outstanding social media strategy. Here are some tips on how to do it:
Now is the time to set some goals, make some changes and create an all-new social media strategy. Social media is now and will always be the best platform to connect with your audience and make an image for yourself. Social media is expanding and getting bigger and bigger each day. Take advantage of this platform and make a name for yourself, entertain your audience and now in 2020, create an outstanding social media strategy.
Here are some tips on how to do it:
1. Create Video Content
In 2020, the power of video will not be dismissed. With video, you can perfectly showcase your brand in an entertaining and engaging way that attracts various demographics. An important thing when creating videos is making sure it’s viewable across various devices!
2. Post on platforms used by your audience
Not surprising, I know, but this is vital to a successful social media strategy. This means you don’t have to be everywhere at once. Select one to three platforms that will be most interactive and make the most of your budget. This way you can engage with the right people in the right way for an effective social media strategy.
3. Use Google in your social media strategy
Google is not just for searching, it’s a logical place to put focus on. There are new features like Google Follow, where Google Map users can follow a business and see that brand’s Google My Business Posts in a “For You” tab on the app. There is also Google Posts that allows you to create content directly on Google. Take advantage of this in the new year to expand your reach.
Hopefully, these three tips can allow you to broaden your horizons and be even more successful this new year. Every once in a while, especially now in the new year, it’s a good idea to reevaluate your strategies and create new ones that emphasize the value you bring and appropriately adhere to your audience.
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